The Quiet Observer

When you want to commune with someone you can learn a lot by observing. This is called understanding non-verbal communication. It's what dogs are expert at. You do this bit with your eyes open and your mouth shut - this bit is very important! As a dog, this is what we look for:

• Body position - is the person slumped, or making themselves small, or standing normally? Are they looking bigger and more threatening than normal?
• Facial position - is the person looking down, so you can't get eye contact, staring at something intently, looking around actively, or just looking out in a relaxed way?
• Facial expression - are they smiley, soft faced, wrinkled-up worried faced, angry faced, lost-looking, vacant, or aggressive?
• Are they making any noises? - Humming, singing, crying, whimpering, sighing, talking, yelling? How loud is it and what is it doing to their face and eyes?
• Do they have anything in their hands?
• Are they making actions, moving, fidgeting or performing any sort of activity?
• What is their vibe? We talked about this in the last post. What is the energy this person is emitting? What is their own personal song that their body and mind are making and broadcasting to the world?

Lastly, we sit and put this all together as a clear picture in our minds. That's how we observe.

Learning: The best way to observe people is with your eyes open and your mouth shut. Be aware, and notice the small details. Put the focus on them, not you!